Hi,
Netherland is in Europe.
So you find someone in the Netherlands (Holland). You send from Italy to Holland, and then from H to you ... Law is sometimes like Swiss cheese.
As for the wife, well, do you want to put that risk on her ? That is the only question.
If not, then, just buy near you, and you'll be safer.
Taking cuttings in the wild, she may as well bring you some caprifigs ... or very late season strains ... Are you willing to spend 3 or 5 years to toss them finally ?
I myself did that some 20 years ago, to just toss the trees. I have here two neighbors (at least) that walked the same rocky way. One tree is dirt level pruned,
the other is trunk shaved .