Some of you may remember I posted about my Mom being hit by a car in June. I live in TX, the rest of the family is still in NY. I went up there 2 days after it happene and stayed for 5-6 days. It was bad, she had multiple fractures - leg, arm, pelvis, vertabrea, ribs and eye socket.
I went back home for 2 weeks and after numerous conversations with my brother, sister and the doctors, I felt it was in the families best interest for me to be there. While I was home I needed to do something constructive for my Mom even though I live 1500 miles away. I hit the net and researched things like widths of road lanes, fatality rates of pedestrians struck bu a car, and prognosis of head trauma for seniors. The info I gathered was not favorable to my Mom. My sisther and brother were emotional wrecks and were not absorbing what the doctors were saying - I witnessed this nyself when I was there that first week. Friends were a bit "too" supportive with phrases like "miracles happen!" "keep the faith" etc. I knew in my heart and brain how unlikely a miracle would be for a 79 year old, someone in the family had to be in reality and practicle.
I went back on July 2nd and was on an emotional rollercoaster from the start. If anyone reading this is a doctor I am sorry to say the doctors were not very helpful or realistic! She had been is a coma or some similar state since shortly after arriving to the hospital on June 10, here it is July 3rd, and the drs are saying we need to give her another 3-4 weeks, and put her in a nursing home when she stableizes!!!!!!! I couldn't believe my ears! I spent so much time biting my tongue so I wouldn't upset my brother and sister - I knew if I did say what I wanted, it would have had terrible repercussions. I needed to preserve what's left of our family.
My Mom passed peacefully on July 20th, my sisters birthday, 8 days before mine. WE burried her on the 25th, and I flew home on the 29th. I gave the eulogy at the funeral mass, it was emotionally difficult and I did get choked up twice, but I continued and finished. I am so glad I did it, I am so glad I was there for her to be her voice for what she wanted. It was the least I could do for her, to make sure her wishes are carried out.
Life on the home front was difficult during my absence. A friend moved in with us last year, and i entrusted her with the house, Glenn, the dog and a new fish. All life forms are still alive, but there was some "difficulties" between Glenn and the friend. And yes, I heard about it while I was away - just what I needed lol. The garden is a wreck - not much left of the tomato plants - I had 7! Everything else is barely holding on. The in ground fig tree is doing fairly well!! The trees in cups from - I don't remember when!! I think last year!!, are still in the same cups YIKES!! They are alive, maybe I will get to up pot them labor day weekend. A spare fridge in the garage died while I was away, I knew it was on it's way out - was just hoping for a couple of more months. I HAD a lot of fig cuttings in there including the cuttings I purchased from Jon here at the forum, and a bunch I traded for. The temp in there was over 80!! I took the cuttings out, emptied it and put it to the curb. I haven't even checked out the cuttings yet. They aren't going anywhere, if they are still viable by labor day, I'll try something with them, if not - oh well, I could always get more cuttings.
So, this has been my worst summer, every summer from now on will be better