Frank,
Actually, I see it as a balancing act, each plant has it's own specific basic requirements for the amount of light, water, nutrients, warmth, air.
Some need more water, some less, some more light, some less, etc.
Figure out what a plants basic requirements are, and you can grow them anywhere! As people have done for thousands of years!
After 50 years of gardening experience , you said something that for me is a "red flag" about plant growth. Perhaps this will be of help to you.
"This leads to rapid, but soft growth, long internodal spaces, and probably weak trees. They grow too fast and too soft? "
And from 50 years of experience growing plants, I know that problem very well! and the problem you discribed in your statement is simply,
Not enough sun light!
I was born in Connecticut, and lived there until I was 16 yo.
But, every fall we went to my grandparents farm in Virginia for 2 weeks. And the biggest thing I remember about Virginia is the sun is so much more intense than in Connecticut which is 500 miles north of VA.
After living in Virginia for 30 years, I went on vacation in Florida, I imediately noticed that In Florida, sunlight is even more intense than Virginia!
My point is this, If your trees came from a very strong sunshine state, they probably would advise you to grow your trees in a shady spot, or morning sun only. Well, that's fine for them, they have strong sun intensity which is more than what the trees need in Florida. They have to grow them in the shade or morning sun, or they'd burn up!
Where you live in NY it takes a week to get a tan, not a day!
In NY city, if you grow a sun lover in the shade, you might as well grow them in a closet! They'll need every last second of sunlight they can get there to survive! Let alone be healthy!
And another thing, With grape vines, you can grow them in any kind of soil, any kind of heat, etc. But, if you withhold water for the last 3 weeks while their grapes are ripening to concentrate the berries sugar, they will be just as sweet and delicious anywhere as California grapes, if not better, because they got better treatment! 2/3rds of our countries grapes come from South America BTW.
Use your logical brain, don't over think it!
Figure out what your growing conditions are, know what your plant needs to do well and make adjustments for them accordingly..
If you live in the north where the sun's intensity is poor, give them as much of it you possibly can .
if in the south or west, with too much sun, give them more shade from the hot afternoon sun..
Too much heat, give them a slight breeze, and create high humidity around them.
A good growing rule I learned a long time ago: "As heat increases, so must air flow, and humidity" or the plant will become non-productive, sicken, then dies. Knowledge + adjustment!
I see posts asking if they should keep they're cutting outside in 102 degree heat! If it's that hot where you live, you might want to consider keeping your cuttings inside!
heat = stress = more water
in other words, the hotter it gets ts the more water it needs!
But, how can they with no roots?
So, Keep your cuttings cool inside if temps start to go above 80 degrees F
Problem solved.