So true, Jo-Ann.

We all hope something tragic like this won't happen to us or our loved ones, but every once in a while it does, and it changes our world.
I'm so sad for what you and your family must be going through.
The important thing right now is that your mom is not alone.
She's listening, even if she can't respond.
A big hug to you and your family.

Mom's update -

She was moved to a pulmonary care floor due to the tracheotomy.  I found out she is still on anti-seizure medications when I thought they took her off of them last week.

According to a nurse who was involved in her admittance care, Mom's neurological condition has not changed.  I am very concerned about my brother and sister - they are both emotional train wrecks.  My sister has lost weight (she is small to begin with), and is in knots.  I convinced her to go to the dr to get something to help her deal with the stress and emotional upheaval of the situation.  She needs to take care of herself so she can take care of her family without breaking down over the slightest thing.  My brother is a man of few words, always was.  He never talks about matters like this or anything - or anything.  I think he is holding on by a thread.  I moved away over 20 years ago, my relationship with my parents was different then my siblings.  I have been able to be more objective and handle some things from TX.

I am flying back up on Wednesday the 2nd and staying for 10 days.  We are to have a family meeting with her doctors on Thursday to get a better idea of where she is and where she could be going. There are going to be conversations about everything with her care and how we will proceed.

I am not optimistic about a recovery.  The severity of the injury to her brain and body is quite extensive and her age is against her.  If she were 25 it could be different.

I told my brother and sister we will make the right decision at the right time - no sooner and no later.

Jo-Ann

Jo-Ann;

I am so, so sorry to read, that you and your family are going through such a terrible ordeal.   You, and your family will be in my prayers.


Frank

So sorry to know this. Prayers from my family to yours.

I am so so sorry JoAnn. I lost my dad one and a half year ago. The doctor told us that my dad was very very sick and we have to prepare for the worst. Just be with her, hold her hand and tell her that you love her. I am an emotional wreck when I hear news like this. Be brave.

Norhayati

I too am so sorry to hear the update JoAnn. You and your family remain in my prayers. 

Hi all, here it is the 13th and I'm still in NY. The meeting we had on the 3rd didn't go the way I thought it would. Thre drs were not very clearn and said to her 3-4 weeks. She has a living will, BUT my siblings did not bring it to the hospital. We put a DNR order on her at my suggestion as a way to ease into the living will. My brother sees me as the grim reaper, and my sister goes back and forth.

Yesterday she opened her eyes!!!! I don't know if it's a good thing or if itnis just going to confuse things, I'm inclined to think it is going to confuse my brother and sister. The residents are not that excited since Mom doesn't seem to follow instructions. I will find out more tomorrow.

I am getting a bit concerned since this will be my 2nd week without pay. I am on FMLA leave which is great. Unfortunately I used all of my PTO time so there will be no money for a few weeks.

As the saying goes, when it rains it pours.

Jo-Ann

I pray that God gives you the strength to get you to the other side of this tragedy, and that peace will find you there, Jo-Ann. I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Jo-Ann,

Praying for you and your family. 

I am so sorry Jo-Ann. I hope the path before your family becomes more clear with time and that path brings peace and healing, whichever way that may go.

Thank you all again for hour support. We moved Mom into hospice today, she has pneumonia and is not improving. Even though she opened her eyes, her brain is not able to process the information. The result is she doesn't show signs she of recognition or signs of hearing. We can see signs of pain, fear and confusion on her face. I feel so helpless, the only thing I could do is try to smile, stroke her face and speak in an assuring tone with my voice.

Thank you again for your prayers and support.

Jo-Ann

Prayers are with you and your family.  God bless.

Jo-Ann,

    So sorry to hear of your circumstances. I support your attitude one hundred per cent. And you are absolutely right regarding a health car poser of attorney. Some states even provide for electing disposition of earthly remains with proper documentation. This can also ease the burden on family.

    My prayers are with you.

Sorry to hear this Jo-Ann, your family is still in my prayers. In some way she must be aware of your presence and feel your loving touch.

Mike in Hanover, VA

Jo-Ann,
Thinking of you and your family.  I hope the best for all of you.  My only thought of advice is Do talk to her, in reassuring and loving words, and do touch her.  Many say that hearing is often still intact even when other senses are gone, and similarly with sense of touch.  It is hard to feel helpless.  We all hope and pray for the best for you.

Mike 

Jo-Ann Im absolutely speechless I was reading this with my wife last night with tears in my eyes and again today with tears in my eyes I know we only know eachother through the forum etc but if there is anything I can do for you and your family Im an email away and im in Valley stream not far at all I dont know what I could do to help ? But please DO NOT hesitate to ask for help.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

Allow me to join the list here of people who are with you by praying for you and your family. I hope the best for you.  Joe

Jo-Ann, Praying for you and your family. May God's love carries you thru this difficult time.

Jo-Ann we haven't heard from you in a while and that concerns me I hope all is well with you and your family you are in my thoughts and prayers.