Nichole,
Sorry to hear, don't get stressed out. I closed recently on first home purchase... it was a very stressful process with lots of ups and downs. I was able to get the home I always wanted though at the end of the process (I am sure you will find the right place soon). Got very lucky with 10% down and 3.75% 30yr rate. It also helped that my realtor was a friend of the other realtor. The closing had to get extended 1 month out due to a lender stepping out on me 2 weeks before original closing (now that was stressful)!
Try to keep your focus on what you want. Don't get emotionally tied to any home, and be very receptive to the whole process trying to facilitate any communication between all parties. What you need to do is relax and recollect your thoughts go over the process with your significant other, and look at all your options. If you don't absolutely need to move, I would consider waiting on the sidelines until things cool off a bit. It seems that you are working against the tide atm (I think its best not to be so eager, to avoid getting caught up paying much more then you should).
Best of luck to you!