Hey Sue,
All is not lost.
I had the same thing happen to me about 5 years ago. I had about 50 in pots and was repotting the last few. I pulled a 5 gallon and it was LOADED and I was shocked. First time in about 12 years of growing I saw some. It was the ONLY affected pot. I use to amend the garden with bagged cow manure. I suspect that's the way they arrived.
I did some reading and came across a landscaper in FL that had a lot of success treating a RKN infested lawns with sugar and water. I read a lot of bad things about sugar but tried it anyway. Black strap molasses is also supposed to help but I've never used it.
I shaved a couple of inches of soil from the sides, bottom and repotted. Dissolved a cup of white sugar in hot water and watered the plant. I did this a total of 3 times that year.
Next year there were only a few areas of the root ball infected. The following year very, very few.
I did more reading and came across crab/lobster shell as a good additive to combat RKN. I add it to everything. I see small outbreaks of RKN now and then, mostly on plants in large tubs that sink their roots into the ground but nothing like the first plant.
I keep plants I sell on several inches of mulch and check every root ball that leaves the property.