Pete,
From your description it sounds like that win-at-all-costs culture in SO may be more widespread than I had hoped (I had hoped it was maybe just in the region I'm in... sounds like maybe not).
Actually, fig propagation and fig growing is one of the things I expanded our involvement with as a "replacement" activity for all that (not exactly replacement, but you get the idea). For me, it's a great way to bring my sons together with my getting-on-in-years father, in a way that affords fun, multi-generational conversations, and plenty of chances to learn a whole wide range of things. Opportunities with science, folklore, family stories and history, ethics, business, horticulture in general, food preparation, taste and perception, communication, and plenty of just plain old fun. A great activity! I hope it's working out that way for you too.
Mike