James,
I doubt this is what is happening to you (since you have a few years of experience under your belt and I'm a rookie), but I know when my trees started breaking bud and leafing out, I went nuts and gave them all a big, big drink or water to wake them up...really soaking the soil. (Hey, the winter is over, you're waking up, you must be thirsty, here's 50 gallons of water to quench your thirst!!!) Most of them took it in stride, but a couple had some setbacks. The leaves shriveled up and then dried up; the new shoots started drooping (e.g. like they were wilting) and then, weeks after I had stopped watering, a few firmed up in place (i.e. all drooped over) and are now growing. Picture a candy cane, though not quite as extreme, and that's an image of what one shoot is doing. It was truly "heading south." ;-)
So, in my case it was over watering, and after I let them dry up and went easy, they started coming back.
Jim