Hi,
I have finally had a chance to get back online and will look at the private messages sent to my inbox.
Considering all the comments I have seen on other threads relating to communication issues, I will relate what happened when I experienced in acquiring these cuttings.
The husband and wife invited us into the backyard to see the tree [my great uncle and aunt lived next door to them from the mid 1940s, so there is a happy longstanding family relationship here].
The husband said "it's the time of year to prune, so take all you want", but of course I know that's not a license to slash away, so I cut just a few. I was very careful just to take cuttings from branches that were rubbing each other, growing the 'wrong' directions, etc.
He kept insisting I take more, so hesitantly I took a few more each time he told me, with him encouraging me at every cut. Still I didn't want to be greedy so I just stopped cutting, despite his encouragements.
Well, as we left, his wife made a comment to members of my family, I guess she was aghast that I had selfishly taken so many. (Last year I was there, next door at my uncle's house when they pruned it, and they just tossed the cuttings in the green recycle bin.) I didn't hear her say that, and only found out later.
As you can imagine, I felt about 3 inches tall [even though my family assured it was just a misunderstanding between the husband and wife...she was very hard of hearing and didn't hear her husband's instructions to me].
I thought I had done the right thing...not taking his 'take as much as you want' literally, only taking branches that would be pruned away anyway, etc. Plus, all I wanted to do is share the cuttings with others (I MIGHT keep one for myself).
I guess I am really glad I hadn't heard her say it. I have known her nearly all of my life [I am 54], and value the 60+ year relationship she has with my immediate and extended family. I respect her far too much to say anything, so I probably would have silently walked out of the yard, tossing the cuttings in the nearest trash can.
Anyway, my point [and I do have one] is that communication disconnects happen even when we have the best intentions. Best that we all think before speaking, use tact, and give people the benefit of the doubt. Peace.
EDIT: I'm pretty sure things are fine Grasa [I heard husband and wife had a discussion after we left], but I like your suggestion, thanks!