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IamKriya
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Just wondering what everyone's expectations are, if any, when they give a fig cutting, tree, etc. I've learned that some people give unconditionally and are happy/detached with whatever the recipient does with it. Thanks for those kind of people! Others, however, give with conditions which are often, unspoken conditions, and the recipient is somehow just supposed to 'know' what they can/should and cannot/shouldn't do. I honestly give without conditions and if one gives, shouldn't it be without conditions? Otherwise, don't bother giving. It's like handing $100 dollars to the birthday boy or girl and telling him/her what they can and cannot spend it on. |
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bullet08
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hmm.. you opened up a can of worm. lol "ethics and fig trading".. we can write a book on it. i would suggest that you know who you are giving the cuttings to. |
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cis4elk
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When I give a cutting or plant, I agree, I don't expect anything unless it was a trade from the beginning or I wanted the reciever to pay shipping which would again be made known from the beginning. |
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IamKriya
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I apologize for not being clearer, but what I was referring to was what the recipient ends up doing with what he receives. If he or she ends up starting a u-pick farm with the cuttings or plants that I gave them and it becomes a source of income for them then I would be completely happy for them. If they end up selling cuttings and plants that originated from whatever I gave them, I would also be happy for them. I sense that some will give but they somehow don't want you to make any money off of it. I don't get it. Maybe, it's because of a less than ideal view or belief regarding money? |
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Rewton
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I think most forum members feel that if you give someone 4 cuttings of a highly desirable variety, and the recipient keeps two cuttings for propagation and then sells two on ebay, that this is unethical. I think where there are more differences of opinion is an example where the recipient roots all four cuttings, to end up with four young plants, and then keeps one and sells three on ebay. In the latter example there is a value added on the part of a recipient (i.e. the effort involved in propagation); however, the recipient is not really following the spirit of the person who gave him the plant material for free. When money is made off of figs things often get complicated. |
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bullet08
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once they grow the tree and then sell cuttings and air layers, i wouldn't mind it at all. if they make good money off that tree, i would even feel proud. but if someone sells the cuttings as soon as they get them, yeah, i won't like it. but, helping others by freely sharing them as soon as they get the cuttings, i would be very happy with it. |
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Aaron4USA
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@IamKriya, where do you collect this unusual information from? Has something like that happen to you? |
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IamKriya
Registered: Posts: 254 |
Ok guys, you are going to have to pretend that I am a 5 year old as I am not understanding it completely. |
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javajunkie
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I agree 100% with Steve! I don't have restrictions on the things I give but if I shipped cuttings out of the goodness of my heart and saw them a week later on ebay I would be really mad. I would also let everyone know what happened and that person would probably have a hard time getting anymore. |
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FMD
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Ryan, if giver and receiver understand what is expected of a transaction, there shouldn't be a problem. Whenever I offer a plant or cutting to someone, I make it clear I want nothing in return if that is what I truly want. The receiver should always ask if he/she can pay for postage and handling, or give something in return. If my answer is no, I want nothing, then it should be of no concern to me what he/she does with the plant material. |
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GeneDaniels
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[QUOTE=Rewton]I think most forum members feel that if you give someone 4 cuttings of a highly desirable variety, and the recipient keeps two cuttings for propagation and then sells two on ebay, that this is unethical. [/QUOTE] |
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GRamaley
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This may be an odd way to look at it, for me it's not unethical that they might sell the gift, it's rude....but it is theirs and if I gave it freely then it is their right to do with it as they please. I would probably make a note to not give them any other... |
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WillsC
Registered: Posts: 1,698 |
If I gave someone cuttings and they sold them instead of propagating them it would frost me.... If though I give cuttings and they grow and keep one and sell the other plants no problem. I agree with Frank that people that don't honor trades annoy me. Delays happen which is fine but if you owe someone it really is up to the one that owes to keep checking back with the owed party to reassure them they have not forgotten and are working on it, is only polite. |
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Rob
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nycfig
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There are probably a million ways that someone could burn another just by the mere exchange of cuttings, whether shipping was paid, weather the cuttings were paid for, prior deals, etc, etc. I'm sure everyone can come up with a scenario. I had given away cuttings and noticed the same cuttings on someones list to trade. I feel it's that persons business and that's it. And I would give away to that person again because the cuttings were given away freely and I have no expectations. |
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Chateauguay_Pino
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RichinNJ
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IMHO, |
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figpit
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It seems that our reputation is less about our actual actions but more about how others feel about our actions; and fair or not, others will treat us accordingly to our reputation. |
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Aaron4USA
Registered: Posts: 2,969 |
Giving is nice, Exchange is even nicer but if someone hit the forums just to get material for the shipping cost or even for free I consider it a fraud or theft, sorry guys. |
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pitangadiego
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There was a category, and may still be, with seeds, cuttings, tubers, etc. when sold through Seedsavers that the recipient had to propagate and offer them in the future, when it was an item that was rare, or seldom seen. That categorization was at the discretion of the seller, and for understandable reasons. I don't know that saw things in the category re-offered by the recipient, but there was no enforcement mechanism. |
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bullet08
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i would imagine it would be a common courtesy to not sell a gift... but some culture might be different. if i did that in korea, at least when i was growing up there, either they beat the crap out of me, or people will pity me for being extremely poor. i think it's about the same all over... but kriya's culture might be different. |
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dkirtexas
Registered: Posts: 1,334 |
My 2 cents - I give, it is no longer mine, it is yours, you may do whatever you want to do with whatever is yours, including killing it. I personally would not sell cuttings or trees that were given to me, my wish list is for me to have, not to sell, I want those because I do not have them, If I were to sell them I would not have them, which is exactly where I started. |
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musillid
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My grandmother was never happy unless she had something to give away. By the same token, she came from a culture where it was impolite to show up at someone's door empty-handed. I give knowing I cannot control the outcome, but also pay attention to mongering. I receive knowing that my receipt also creates a debt, if only of gratitude, but often to be just as generous to the next person. |
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hoosierbanana
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To play devils advocate Ryan, what if it was you who gifted the cuttings? The receiver sells some but they are not the correct variety, it could have been that you had the wrong type, or the seller mixed them up, or the seller purposefully misrepresented them to make a little extra. Now what was a gift has become a liability. The seller will no longer be financially responsible by the time the buyer figures it out so all that is left to lose is credibility. |
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Figfinatic
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Giving without the expectation of anything frees you to experience and receive the pleasure in giving instead of worrying of being wronged in some way. On the other hand, just clearly state what you expect if you do expect something. That way chances are less you will be disappointed, or just call it an exchange. Try it both ways and see which one works for you. |
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OttawanZ5
Registered: Posts: 2,551 |
There is another situation. |
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schaplin
Registered: Posts: 662 |
I think that the problem is that you give a gift to someone you might wish to be a new friend. |
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Hershell
Registered: Posts: 650 |
I gave a friend two motorcycles and in less than a week he called to tell me he had them sold and asked if I wanted a cut. No I could have sold them but I gave them to him, I was out of the picture. However it was nice of him to offer. When I give it to you it is yours. Enjoy! |
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Ruuting
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It's kind of neat to see all the points of view. This is an interesting thread. Ryan, I don't know if your question has been answered, but thanks for bringing up this topic. The truth is, the more you give, the more you will have. One unpleasant experience on either end of a trade should not sour us. The fact is, each and every one of us will be perceived a fool, a crook, a hero, an angel, at least once in our lifetime. Just part of being human. And the first line of this paragraph applies again. Be the giver, it's much more rewarding. |
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Norhayati
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I felt very bad if the cuttings given to me did not make it. As if I have failed the donor. But when it grows, I can't wait to share them with others. I believe the more you give the more you get. Thank you very much to my donors. Norhayati. |
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FiggieFive_0
Registered: Posts: 259 |
Aloha, everyone and mahalo, Ryan for this very thought provoking thread. |
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jdsfrance
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Hi lamkriya, |
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bullet08
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jds, you are lucky you have people who knows how to care for fig trees. ones that i gave away all died. few that i gave to my in laws, they watered them to death. one that i give to my friend, he didn't water and it died. i'm waiting to hear from my co-works. wonder how long they will keep them going. i'll be happy if they make it to next spring. |
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IamKriya
Registered: Posts: 254 |
Thank you all for sharing your thoughts! I have truly learned a lot from what was shared on this thread! |
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bullet08
Registered: Posts: 6,920 |
it's not a "string". it's one those things that's just understood. if some one gives you beer, you are expected to drink it. if you don't want to drink it, you should let the person know. if some one gives you a cutting, they expect you to root and grow them. if that is not the intention, you should state it. why would i give some one a fig cuttings to sell? i don't sell cuttings. and i have no intention of being a wholesaler. |
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RichinNJ
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[QUOTE=bullet08]it's not a "string". it's one those things that's just understood. if some one gives you beer, you are expected to drink it. if you don't want to drink it, you should let the person know. if some one gives you a cutting, they expect you to root and grow them. if that is not the intention, you should state it. why would i give some one a fig cuttings to sell? i don't sell cuttings. and i have no intention of being a wholesaler.[/QUOTE] |
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Chateauguay_Pino
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I've already given my opinion but i would just like to add one more point. I buy cuttings from ebay. I pay lets say 80$ for a rare variety. Some go for 100's of $ as we all know. |
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Aaron4USA
Registered: Posts: 2,969 |
I don't know about you guys but I look at this thread in a totally different way. To me it's about How you are being approached about giving a cutting. I am a very giving person, but don't conn me about how you want to grow figs but you don't have cuttings... so I can share in order for you to take them from me and turn around and sell them, EXCUSE ME! This is unethical, no matter what culture. |
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bullet08
Registered: Posts: 6,920 |
aaron, beer works.. really... lol |
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Aaron4USA
Registered: Posts: 2,969 |
no, I'm going to open the other packet of that frozen figs from TJ, I stashed them somewhere in the freezer chest. |
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schaplin
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I'm 100% with the beer. Put the shoe on the other foot. As a gift receiver could I honest tell the person what my plans for their cutting were and still get them. For example Someone offers me a wonderful fig that is going for hundreds of dollars. I say that is nice but if you give it to me I'm going to sell it on ebay. If I still get the cutting then the giver was not offended on the other hand if he says no way then I know he would be unhappy. If someone is giving cuttings away and I ask for it then I pay shipping and I try and root it then grow it so I can taste it and see how it grows in this area. At some point I will have cutting of my own to share or trade on the forum and yes at some point there will be fig trees (besides Celest and Brown Turkey) for sale at the nursery. |
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HarveyC
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I buy cuttings and plants and sell cuttings and plants and receive gifts and give gifts. It's complicated. Beer sounds good! Giving to someone for a stated purpose is fine, IMO, but should be made clear up front ("This is my only back-up so let me know before you sell it in case mine has died.") It does not take away from the gift as long as the person receiving it truly wanted it for their own use to begin with.
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IamKriya
Registered: Posts: 254 |
So, what about if there was no such thing as money? What about if we were still bartering as the primary means of exchange? Would you still be 'offended' if the receiver traded the cuttings you gave them for, let's say, a basket of fruits, a basket of veggies, or a massage? |
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IamKriya
Registered: Posts: 254 |
And, to be clear, I'm not talking about receivers who deceived you into giving them cuttings. |
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bullet08
Registered: Posts: 6,920 |
that's like asking why order milk when you want a pint of beer. we are here because of figs, not bread or othe fruits... tho other fruits come up often. |
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kubota1
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[QUOTE=IamKriya]So, what about if there was no such thing as money? What about if we were still bartering as the primary means of exchange? Would you still be 'offended' if the receiver traded the cuttings you gave them for, let's say, a basket of fruits, a basket of veggies, or a massage? |
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hoosierbanana
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I don't think bartering or selling for an asking price is anything like an auction. How would the grocers and massage therapists outbid one another?
This practice was already known and described in medieval times and earlier, and it led to theories of a “just” or “fair” price for products. For example, according to medieval Christian theologians, the profit mark-up should never be more than one-sixth (16-17%) of the value of the traded object (see Paul Bairoch, Victoires et deboires, Vol. 3, Gallimard 1997, p. 699). The idea of unequal exchange surfaces again nowadays in controversies over fair trade. However, in modern neoclassical economics, the notion of a morally justifiable price is regarded as unscientific; at most one can talk about an “equilibrium price” in an open, competitive market. If the value of a good is simply equal to the price someone is prepared to pay for it according to individual choice, no exchange can be unequal. Anyone can claim to have been "cheated" or shortchanged in exchange, in the sense of receiving an "unfair" price for a commodity, less than it is really worth, or having to pay more than it is really worth. The crucial question which must be answered therefore is what the "real value" of commodities actually is, what their real worth is, and how that could be objectively established. A related question is why the "victim" traded at a lower price, when he could have gotten a higher price elsewhere. This question preoccupied social philosophers and economic thinkers for many centuries. It contributed to the "moral science" of political economy, which was originally concerned with the problem of what would be a fair and just exchange, and how trading could be regulated in the interests of a more harmonious progress of human society. In modern thought, however, value in economics is regarded as a purely subjective matter — it can be judged only on the basis of how an individual actually lives his life and how he conducts himself as an individual in the marketplace. The only “objective” aspect that remains is the price at which a commodity sells or is purchased, and this becomes the foundation for modern economic science. So in modern economics, value is essentially a question of style, moral behaviour and the spirituality of individuals, not an economic issue. If unfair trading practices occur, it must be that there is an impediment to freely competitive markets; and if those markets or market access could be open, all would be fair. Fair competition is said to be guaranteed through:
In that case, the concept of "unequal exchange" can only refer to unfair trading practices, such as:
Members who have a favored status get much better access to varieties than the general public, so the opportunity for exploitation exists. Food for thought. |
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Chivas
Registered: Posts: 1,675 |
Normally I just give away, plants or cuttings. I think it's up to you what you like to do, personally if I lived in CA I would want to trade fig trees for chesnuts with harvey though, fresh chesnuts are delicious, moldy one from china not so much. |
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HarveyC
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Chivas, maybe you can trade with http://www.grimonut.com/ |
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